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When I first met my husband, I had resigned to not date, chase, or make myself available to men for a while b/c of the way I had been treated by someone who supposedly loved me. He was a complete a$$ who put on fronts just to get on my goodside and after he won me over, the wolf came out and the sheepskin came off! After this, I complied a list of questions for a man if he were interested or wanted to get to know me better. 1. Are you married? 2. Do you do drugs? crack? meth? marijuana? pills?2A. Do you drink? How often? daily? weekly? monthly?3. How's your credit?4. Have you been tested? (HIV that is)5. Do you live with your parent(s)?5A. Do you have a place of your own?6. Do you have your own car?7. Do you have any children? How many?I know I'll probably get a big thumbs down for these questions, but if you had a choice b/f you got your heart broken, wouldn't you ask these too?For you guys that think that I shot these all at once to him, NO I DIDN'T. I had these on my mind and the closer we got, the questions came up..especially when we started to become intimate. Don't think that I wouldn't publish this list if it helped other women and men avoid heartache.

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you make others pay for your ex's crimes.yeah, that's way to live a life. good luck with that.

lol those are great questions but are you sure you want to say that up front like tht. lol ask them but not so cold. dont forget the "DO YOU HAVE A JOB? and HAVE YOU EVER BEEN ARRESTED?" lol

When you go on a first date, why not put those questions on a written application? Then your mating ritual will be more like a job interview. Good luck with that.

LOL I think that is a great list. It will probably scare a lot of guys off, but they are probably guys that you wouldn't want anyway. To answer your question, I didn't ask anything specific, but we did date for 5 years before we got married so I knew him pretty well.

I don't have a problem with the questions you want answered. I have a problem if this is how you present them. Interrogation is NEVER the way to really learn about a person. It puts people on the defensive. These questions are easily answered in a conversational format over a cup of coffee. Leading a conversation is not difficult and people are more willing to be forthcoming when relaxed.I will say this....if your still so concerned and guarded about the possibility of a broken heart then you aren't ready to be in a relationship yet anyway.

As my husband and I began to date, we got to know each other, and found these things out. I didn't say, "Hi, my name is ___. You're cute. Do you smoke meth? Do you have AIDS? Are you bankrupt?"Talk about a quick way to scare someone away!!Of course, meeting people in places other than bars and clubs would help with this. I met my husband at a young adult weekend at a church camp. He was surrounded by friends who'd known him all of his life, so I was able to learn about him and be relatively certain that he wasn't a married crack addict trolling for women at a church camp while living in his mom's basement.

for me a job is important amongst the obvious other things (married, drugs ect.)I think its a great list ...providing you keep the list to yourself and only fire out a few of those questions spiratically. You dont want to scare the poor guy away...and besides are you perfect?

When I first met my girlfriend I asked no question. You get to know someone as a friend and eventually as things g row you will find out everything you want to know about them in due time. If you attack with questions right away early in a relationship it kind of marks it for death sort of speak.When two people meet for the first time you usaly get toknow the basics. Where they work, where they loive and what they drive and how their life is going in general.Any other persoanl questions should be left out and if they want you to know they will tell you in due time.My girlfriend and I went to give plasma. They checkyou for aids and disease when you give plasma so we both got checked out and passed with flying colors.We had sex three months later.